In Victorian times, flowers were carefully and creatively chosen by male suitors to convey secret messages all their own, allowing a man to declare his love, or confusion thereof, without resorting to the uncouth nature of the spoken word.

So this year, why not take some advise from a Victorian-living amongst us in disguise as Hollywood’s very romantic leading man, Hugh Jackman. In “Kate & Leopold,” Jackman’s character is thrust into modern day New York and is appalled by the lack of manners, reflection and etiquette in today’s society. In one of the film’s most memorable scenes, he teaches Breckin Meyer’s character Charlie how to woo a woman with flowers – by choosing the perfect one according to its meaning.

Don’t just mix and match your flowers haphazardly, was lesson #1. Leopold goes to great lengths to tell his friend how to bouquet flowers with contrasting messages.

It was known as “the language of flowers” and this charming custom became quite popular in the 19th century, with guides being published to the individual meanings, and associated emotions, of each different type and color of bud. Creating a bouquet could become a poetic event, filled with subtle suggestions and flattery. Even weeds were assigned precise definitions – and the recipient usually knew exactly what a man’s bouquet meant!

So have some fun, and send the message you intend when you send your special someone-flowers! By the way, do you think this might work on Mr. Jackman? Hmmmm….